Your Turn: How to Be an Adult
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- Author：Julie Lythcott-Haims
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Summary
New York Times
bestselling author Julie Lythcott-Haims is back with a groundbreakingly frank guide to being a grown-up
What does it mean to be an adult？ In the twentieth century， psychologists came up with five markers of adulthood: finish your education， get a job， leave home， marry， and have children。 Since then， every generation has been held to those same markers。 Yet so much has changed about the world and living in it since that sequence was formulated。 All of those markers are choices， and they’re all valid， but any one person’s choices along those lines do not make them more or less an adult。
A former Stanford dean of freshmen and undergraduate advising and author of the perennial bestseller How to Raise an Adult and of the lauded memoir Real American， Julie Lythcott-Haims has encountered hundreds of twentysomethings （and thirtysomethings， too）， who， faced with those markers， feel they’re just playing the part of “adult，” while struggling with anxiety， stress， and general unease。 In Your Turn， Julie offers compassion， personal experience， and practical strategies for living a more authentic adulthood， as well as inspiration through interviews with dozens of voices from the rich diversity of the human population who have successfully launched their adult lives。
Being an adult， it turns out， is not about any particular checklist; it is， instead， a process， one you can get progressively better at over time—becoming more comfortable with uncertainty and gaining the knowhow to keep going。 Once you begin to practice it， being an adult becomes the most complicated yet also the most abundantly rewarding and natural thing。 And Julie Lythcott-Haims is here to help readers take their turn。
What does it mean to be an adult？ In the twentieth century， psychologists came up with five markers of adulthood: finish your education， get a job， leave home， marry， and have children。 Since then， every generation has been held to those same markers。 Yet so much has changed about the world and living in it since that sequence was formulated。 All of those markers are choices， and they’re all valid， but any one person’s choices along those lines do not make them more or less an adult。
A former Stanford dean of freshmen and undergraduate advising and author of the perennial bestseller How to Raise an Adult and of the lauded memoir Real American， Julie Lythcott-Haims has encountered hundreds of twentysomethings （and thirtysomethings， too）， who， faced with those markers， feel they’re just playing the part of “adult，” while struggling with anxiety， stress， and general unease。 In Your Turn， Julie offers compassion， personal experience， and practical strategies for living a more authentic adulthood， as well as inspiration through interviews with dozens of voices from the rich diversity of the human population who have successfully launched their adult lives。
Being an adult， it turns out， is not about any particular checklist; it is， instead， a process， one you can get progressively better at over time—becoming more comfortable with uncertainty and gaining the knowhow to keep going。 Once you begin to practice it， being an adult becomes the most complicated yet also the most abundantly rewarding and natural thing。 And Julie Lythcott-Haims is here to help readers take their turn。
Reviews
Natalie ♡
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*3。5 stars***I won this ARC as a part of a Goodreads giveaway sponsored by Henry Holt & Co。 Thank you to all and any parties involved for sending this book my way！**To start off the review， I would like to say that the way I read this book is not how I think the audience/readers should read it。 In order for me to read this in time before it’s release， I read it like how you would read any fictional book that has some sort of plot: chapter after chapter after chapter。 No skipping around to chapte *3。5 stars***I won this ARC as a part of a Goodreads giveaway sponsored by Henry Holt & Co。 Thank you to all and any parties involved for sending this book my way！**To start off the review， I would like to say that the way I read this book is not how I think the audience/readers should read it。 In order for me to read this in time before it’s release， I read it like how you would read any fictional book that has some sort of plot: chapter after chapter after chapter。 No skipping around to chapters that sparked my interest or in areas I specifically need help in， I read it in chapter order with little breaks in between。 Due to this， I found it to be a lot of information to take in at once and， to put it frankly， quite boring （except for the entirety of chapter 5， I loved that one and not just because it started off with a quote from marvel hehe）。 However， if I were to read this in segments or just on a basis of when I need to hear the particular advice each chapter focuses on， I would have found it a lot more interesting and more helpful in those situations。 Therefore， I recommend other young adults to not read this all in one shot！ Look at the titles of the chapters， find what YOU particularly need advice on， and then start to read the chapter that satisfies your needs。 This book has some really helpful information and I could totally see myself picking this up in the future for when I am facing certain difficulties/events in my upcoming adult life！ 。。。more
Diana N。
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I thought this book was going to be for "new adults，" but many of the concepts apply to any adult no matter their place in life。 The Be Good， Make Things Better， and Unleash Your Superpowers chapters stuck out for me。 Some of the additional stories in the "Don't Just Take My Word For It" sections seemed to be more extra than what was needed to convey the main points。 I found myself skipping a few of those， but that was because the original discussions were enough for me to reflect on the topics。 I thought this book was going to be for "new adults，" but many of the concepts apply to any adult no matter their place in life。 The Be Good， Make Things Better， and Unleash Your Superpowers chapters stuck out for me。 Some of the additional stories in the "Don't Just Take My Word For It" sections seemed to be more extra than what was needed to convey the main points。 I found myself skipping a few of those， but that was because the original discussions were enough for me to reflect on the topics。Overall， this book had me really stopping to think of ways that I can be a better adult for myself and those around me。 。。。more
Amber Stewart
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I found this book very insightful and a great read for young adults！ It is personal and a great source to help navigate the world of adulting！
Jackie
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I won this in a goodreads giveaway。 Very interesting book。 I enjoyed reading it and hope to put some of the recommendations to good use！
Lydia Wallace
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This author is spot on。 I wish I would have had this book when I was raising my children。 I wish my parents would have had a book like this to teach me that there is no particular checklist in becoming an adult。 It can be fun becoming an adult without following strict old fashion guidelines。 I was raised to think you graduated high school， got a job， got married and started a family at a young age。 I know if I had read this informative book when I was younger my life would have been different。 I This author is spot on。 I wish I would have had this book when I was raising my children。 I wish my parents would have had a book like this to teach me that there is no particular checklist in becoming an adult。 It can be fun becoming an adult without following strict old fashion guidelines。 I was raised to think you graduated high school， got a job， got married and started a family at a young age。 I know if I had read this informative book when I was younger my life would have been different。 I have a lot of anxiety and stress due to following the strict guidelines and then not really enjoying my adult life。 A must read。 I am going to give this book to my young adult daughter who is in college and starting out to find herself in the world。 Thanks Julie Lythcott-Haims。 。。。more
Hannah
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DNF at 52%。This book has good advice and I wanted to like this book。 The issue for me， and for many teenagers who may want to read this， is the sheer length of this book。 My copy had 450+ pages with small text， with each chapter having 50 or so pages。 The chapters went on for so long I was just pushing myself to finish each section。 If this book was more digestible and shorter， I would've finished it， but I don't really have time for a book that I have to push myself through。 DNF at 52%。This book has good advice and I wanted to like this book。 The issue for me， and for many teenagers who may want to read this， is the sheer length of this book。 My copy had 450+ pages with small text， with each chapter having 50 or so pages。 The chapters went on for so long I was just pushing myself to finish each section。 If this book was more digestible and shorter， I would've finished it， but I don't really have time for a book that I have to push myself through。 。。。more
Tara Jennings
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This book has been an interesting read！ I think even when we age into “adult status” we still have so much room for growing and learning that we will never be true adults by any standards put in place， because adulting is different for everyone。 I think this book touches on a lot of topics to muddle through the complexity of aging from young adulthood into being a “grown up” as many might say。 Being a mom and was a single mom for many years， adulthood came differently to me than what I seen from This book has been an interesting read！ I think even when we age into “adult status” we still have so much room for growing and learning that we will never be true adults by any standards put in place， because adulting is different for everyone。 I think this book touches on a lot of topics to muddle through the complexity of aging from young adulthood into being a “grown up” as many might say。 Being a mom and was a single mom for many years， adulthood came differently to me than what I seen from my own mother and grandmother。 Some days I don’t even feel like an adult， and other days I feel like I am older than I am。 Having a teenager， myself I see her struggling to figure out what fits her age and trying to figure out growing up faster than she needs to and out of her comfort zones in some respects。 I am passing this book on and hoping my teenage appreciates some of this and even if she doesn’t completely feel connected to all of it， she will over time。 I think it is a great book to reference later， and when you work around teenagers not a bad thing to have to resource。 I think Julie Lythcott-Haims has done a great job with this somewhat “how-to” guide to get through the expectations of life and guide in a way that works individually instead of just a blanket policy type guided way。 Thank you Goodreads giveaways for the chance to read and pass on this book （to borrow only…。） and also leave an honest review！ 。。。more
Clarice
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